When I went to Texarkana a couple of weeks ago, I went by some of my ancestor’s graves and replaced some flowers, and left some rocks.
Yes, I said rocks.
I’m sure you are wondering why I would leave a rock. Traditionally, I believe it’s a Jewish custom to leave a rock when you visit a grave. It means you remember the person you are leaving it for. The way I understand it to work, anytime you think of a person who has passed away, you stop right there, and pick up a rock. Then, the next time you visit their grave, you leave the rock.
Now, I’m not Jewish but I think it’s a great way for anyone, no matter the religion or ethnicity to leave a reminder that someone was there, and the person the rock was left for, isn’t forgotten.
In the picture above, you can see that the rock was painted and written on (I love you Pinterest), it says, “At Rest with God” and I thought this one was appropriate for Rev. Williams’ grave, my 2nd great-grandfather. I also put the cross out there with the flowers on it.
I put flowers on the headstone of my great-grandparents, Rufus and Dona (Williams) Higginbotham. I didn’t leave them a rock though because sadly I had forgotten the bag of rocks when I was putting the flowers on.
Next, over at East Memorial Gardens, I replaced the flowers on my grandfather and grandmother’s headstone. I had already put this rock there sometime last year, and I was actually very pleased that it was still there, and the paint is holding up well and it still looks really good. This rock says, “Until we meet again.”
Then at Harmony Grove, I put a rock on my great-grandparents headstone, Major and Mollie Harris. Everyone called them “Big Mama & Grandpa”, so that is what their rock says.
I also left one for Uncle Doc, Joseph William Harris. His says, “Rest in Peace”.
I couldn’t leave out my 2nd great-grandparents, James Ed and Martha Alice (Herring) Harris. Their’s is just a painted rock with a bird on it.
How’s that for added flare to a headstone?
I think I’ll do more of these rocks and take them next time I go!
Thank you to Alix, for painting this set of rocks for me.

Barbara
April 8, 2014 at 9:09 pm
Love that idea. You are very lucky to be able to visit so many of your grandparents graves. Mine are all far away, mostly NYC.